Stress is something that we have all experienced to varying degrees and is necessary in small doses to help keep us motivated and perform, however we don’t always recognise it creeping up on us and the impact it has on our overall wellbeing. A high percentage (as much as 80%) of visits to the doctor are related to stress, but with a 10 minute consultation it is difficult to address the problem and get to the core issues.
Stress is a very broad term and hard to define, as what is stressful to one person may be exciting and challenging to another. Stress management needs to be tackled from a variety of angles to ensure that the early warning signs are recognized and some strategies can be put into action before we start burning out.
The three main aspects in managing stress are:
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Identifying the major source of stress
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Recognizing the warning signs of stress
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Controlling the major sources stress
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Major sources of stress include:
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Goals – which have to do with how much you want to accomplish and the demands you put on yourself - this is the issue of ambition.
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Standards - are to do with how well you must perform all the time. Being determined to never make a mistake and a need for perfection.
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Limits/boundaries - how attentively we should respond to the wants and needs of others. If you think you must satisfy the desires of others and not disappoint anyone - this is the problem of obligation, causing relationships to become a source of stress.
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Recognizing the warning signs of stress:
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Constant fatigue: Fatigue causes a person to become increasingly discouraged and negative over time.
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Beware of nagging discomfort: The body and mind can register stress in painful ways. Stress can actually hurt and cause physical symptoms.
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Burnout: Losing interest in what you usually care about. Stress can lead to depression and a feeling of hopelessness.
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Beware of breakdown: Stress can become debilitating, functioning becomes difficult and feels too problematic to try and correct it.
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Other warning signs may include:
Physical: Headaches, indigestion/nausea, gastrointestinal problems, heart palpitations, increased sweating.
Emotional: Anxiety, depressed mood, loss of confidence & self esteem, decreased pleasure in life.
Cognitive: Negative thoughts, impaired judgement, loss of concentration, forgetfulness, difficulty making decisions.
Behavioural: Changes in appetite, problems with relationships, withdrawal, problems managing time, substance abuse.
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Control the major sources of stress by adjusting expectations:
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Rethink, and re-prioritise goals – make sure they are realistic and achievable.
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Rather than aiming for perfection all of the time, change standards by accepting that doing your best is good enough.
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Review limits by being aware of your own needs, setting clear boundaries and learning to be assertive.
It’s important to identify what you have control over and what isn’t in your control. Changing other people is almost impossible, however you have the power to change your own perceptions and the way you react to people and your circumstances. Learning to cope with change and deal with difficult situations more effectively is also within your control.
Developing a greater level of resilience and managing emotions and thought processes are also tools to improve coping strategies. Trying to think from a solution focused perspective rather than always seeing the problem can help you feel more hopeful and see a way forward. It's important that you can find support and resources to help you get back on track and prevent it becoming a major problem in your life. If not managed properly, chronic stress can lead to a serious illness, anxiety disorders or depression.
Stay tuned for more - Teresa Mahon